How to take care of yourself or your child after a therapy session

You have already demonstrated the courage it takes to show up to therapy. Now think about how you can take care of yourself or your child after your session? When we think about self-care, it’s important to think about the nervous system. The goal should be to bring nurturing and calm in order to help the nervous system to regulate. This helps your brain to integrate your therapy experience.

If possible, start with a gentle walk—maybe even before you drive away. Notice the trees. Feel the air and the temperature. Notice the light. If you are with your child, help them to be engaged with the nature around you both. It doesn’t have to be long.

As you proceed through the day or evening, consider ways to bring nurturing and enjoyment that include all of your senses. What music or sounds do you or your child enjoy? What scents feel good? What clothing or blankets or pillows are comforting? Maybe you enjoy fresh flowers or lighting a special candle. You can write in a journal, draw a picture together, sip some tea, go for a beach walk. Anything that feels nourishing to you fits the bill.

Lastly, try to stay connected to the people who bring comfort. Perhaps call a close friend or reach out to a family member. You can stay connected to your child by doing activities that you both enjoy. You don’t have to discuss heavy topics or try and solve problems. It is time to relax and enjoy each other.

And of course, life happens. Maybe you have to run off to something busy—a work meeting, a soccer game, a trip to the grocery store. Just keep in mind ways to be gentle and nurturing as you move throughout your day.

Keep up the good work.